@RemonEH
Check the 3rd server is running Ubuntu 22.04. If it was running 20.04, run:
apt update
apt upgrade -y
(reboot)
do-release-upgrade
(reboot again)
Then restart orchd on the control panel server
docker restart orchd
Then the upgrade should complete. If that's not it, please send a support ticket.
You should be able to delete a website from the server if it's decommissioned. Then you will be able to delete the server.